Hello Lovely Readers!,

This topic has been in the making for quite some time now and today I’d like to address the topic of complaining. Lord knows I am guilty of this and I know I’m not the only one out there. Ever since I have been trying to rid myself of toxic, negative energy I’ve noticed that I complain less about school, projects, and the like, but I notice that I complain about the absolute most stupid things. Literally everything that doesn’t matter or no one cares about. For example, the way my hair looks, the way I phrased something in a conversation and worrying if they took it the wrong way, or not having the kind of attention I want from certain people. Honestly, as I am sitting here typing this waiting for my class to start I am EMBARRASSED that I even let this take over my mind.

The other day I was sitting with a friend and she was telling me about family health issues, as well as her own, and how it has been affecting her life. As she continued on, I sat my head back in the car and squeezed my eyes shut while I thought to myself “Marissa, honestly what is your problem? You’re groaning on about something you’re not even going to care about in two weeks while your friend is going though something life shattering.” I wanted to slap myself because I felt so ashamed for being incredibly selfish.

But why do we do this? Do we honestly get so caught up in the stupid, minute details of our life that we can’t recognize that there are actual problems in the world? There are people who don’t have
a safe place to sleep, are dying of incurable illnesses, have no food to eat, or don’t have a support system to fall back on. Not only do I think that this is a prevalent issue in my own life, I think this is a problem with our culture as a whole. We are so caught up in our own lives and frivolous issues that we don’t stop and think about what others are going through…and let me tell you it could be a lot worse than you’re hair being frizzy.

Whenever I get to complaining about my unimportant problems that don’t affect anyone but myself, I try to step back and think “It could be so much worse. You should be thankful for your family and wellbeing.” I try my gosh darned hardest to put other’s first because I believe that’s important to do so, but lately I’ve been having some selfish slip ups and I want to personally apologize for that. While I do realize that it is important to get your troubles off your chest and take time for yourself, you always need to ask “Is this honestly important enough to complain about?”

It’s definitely not an easy task for some to try to be completely selfless for .08 seconds, but I’m really challenging all of you to sit down and ask someone how they’re doing. It’ll be a nice refresher to get a look into someone’s life and realize that you’re not the only person out there going through a rough time.